Welcome to Afternoon Tea! We’re a cool, quirky group of young people who come from all walks of life. What we all have in common is that we’re trans or questioning our gender identity. If you’re 13-25 and trans or unsure about your gender, we’d love you to join us!
We usually meet on the 2nd and 4th Sunday of every month at the LGBT Centre, Manchester.
Being trans means feeling like your gender is different from what you were told when you were born, (usually an M or an F on your birth certificate). Some people feel like boys, some feel like girls, and some feel like something else – maybe a third gender, or none, or a mix between the two. All of these are trans identities if they differ from what others expect you to be.
What can I expect when I go?
Going to a new place and meeting new people is often scary. We can’t change that, but we can promise that we’re really friendly and will make you feel welcome. We usually start by sitting in a circle as people arrive, and we like to make tea/coffee and eat cake! We introduce ourselves and our gender pronouns (he/she/they/something else) and then we start whatever activities we’re doing that day.
Some of the things we like to do:
Arts & crafts
Chill out and chat
Design posters and resources for schools, doctors and others
Support each other through difficult patches
Play on the Wii
Some young people who come to Afternoon Tea are trained befrienders and peer mentors. This means they have gone through training to welcome new people, make sure they’re included, and mentor others in the group through difficult times. If you come on your own, the staff will try to buddy you up (if you want!) with a mentor to help you settle in.
Being trans isn’t a problem in itself. But transphobia is. Trans young people sometimes feel isolated, or confused about how to access the healthcare and support they want. We’re here to help you navigate through it, and find friends along the way. The young people who come to Afternoon Tea come because it’s a chance to be themselves, a chance to meet their friends in a space where they won’t be judged, and a chance to have fun! It’s also a place to ask questions you might be afraid of asking elsewhere, or cannot find the answers to.
Once a year, we go on a residential weekend for two nights. It’s a chance to get to know each other better, and have an extended period of time and space to be ourselves. Some of us who aren’t out at home really benefit from being ‘out’ for a whole weekend without having to use names or pronouns we don’t want. The staff will let you know when it’s on, but don’t be afraid to ask if you’re interested!